Module 6: Where Do We Go From Here?



Step One

Using the Weekly Rating Sheet, please rate how well your life is working.



Step Two

How did you do with the Action Plan? If you kept your commitment, what was the experience like?
If you did not keep your commitment, what thoughts or feelings got in the way? 



Step Three

Main Ideas:

1. If we fall short of our goal, we have two choices:

A. Give up
B. Remain (or become) mindful of our negative thoughts and feelings, learn something, focus on our values, and re-commit.

Consider these words by Dr. Russ Harris, from ACT Made Simple:
“When we do go off-track, what helps is being kind and accepting toward ourselves: we accept the painful thoughts and feelings, then reconnect with our values, and get moving again. What doesn’t help is beating ourselves up. I mean, if beating yourself up was a good way to change your behavior, wouldn’t you be perfect by now?”​

2. All the skills you have been learning and practicing – mindfulness, defusion, connecting with the present, connecting with the Observing Self – have the same purpose: To give you the flexibility to make choices that improve your life. Remember, we aren’t trying to control negative thoughts and feelings; that doesn’t always work in the long run. Instead, we are trying to make room for our negative thoughts and feelings so that we can live a better life.​

Take a look at the image below. This is a visual representations of the processes you’ve been working on in this toolkit.

Psychological Flexibility

3. You can remember these skills by remembering a very basic acronym for the word ACT:

A = Accept your thoughts and feelings, and be present
C = Choose a valued direction
T = Take action

Step Four

Practice New Skills:

Now that you have worked through these modules and learned some new skills, let us return to the Introduction to ACT exercise to put it all together. As you read the exercise, follow along as best you can with the instructions as you read them. Don’t worry if you get distracted or lose focus. This is normal. Just refocus on the exercise as soon as you notice that your mind has wandered.

Introduction to ACT (click here for guided exercise)

The following exercise will help you experience the main concepts of the ACT approach. Sometimes it is easier to understand something if you experience it, rather than have someone try to explain it to you in words.  As you read the following exercise, follow along as best you can with the instructions as you read them. Don’t worry if you get distracted or lose focus; this is normal. Just refocus on the exercise as soon as you notice that your mind has wandered.

Please find a comfortable position in your chair; one where you can stay relatively still for about 5 to 10 minutes. I recommend feet flat on the floor with arms on your legs or folded in your lap, but feel free to do whatever is most comfortable for you.

Take a few moments to mentally scan your body from head to toe… Notice if there are any areas of tension such as your jaw or shoulders… If you notice any tension, see if you can let some of that tension go… If not, that’s okay, just notice what’s there.

Take a few moments to connect with your sense of touch… Notice what physical sensations are happening in your hands… See if you can feel where your hands make contact with each other or with your legs… See if you can feel your feet on the ground…

Next, take a few moments to notice what you can hear… There may be several sounds, or just one, or it may be silent. Just notice whatever is there…

When you’re ready, move your attention to your breathing… Watch the breath come in and go out on its own, without you having to control it… See if you can feel your breath in your nose or your belly…

As you breathe, you will notice that thoughts may come into your mind… They may be pleasant thoughts, or unpleasant thoughts, or neutral thoughts… This is what the human mind does, it is a thinking machine… Just see if you can notice the thoughts without getting caught up in them, and then return your attention to your breathing… Each time a thought pops up, notice it and then return your attention to your breath… This will happen over and over and over again, and that’s okay, it means you’re normal… With practice you can get better at noticing your thoughts, rather than getting carried away by them.

As you continue breathing, you will notice that certain feelings or emotions will also show up… Some of these may be pleasant feelings, unpleasant feelings, or neutral feelings… See if you can notice these feelings the same way you notice your thoughts… There is no need to try and change what’s there, just try to notice what you feel… When you notice a feeling, see if you can locate where it is in your body… Notice what sensations come along with the emotion… There may be heaviness, lightness, warmth, coolness, tingling, or tension… You may find these sensations in your head, shoulders, arms, legs, or abdomen…

Whatever you feel and wherever it happens, just notice what’s going on and see if you can let it be…

And now see if you can return your attention to your breathing… See if you can notice that there is a part of you that’s able to watch your breathing, watch your thoughts, watch your feelings, watch the sensations that happen in your body… There is a part of you that does the thinking and feeling, and a part of you that can notice the thinking and feeling… Take a few moments to experience what it’s like to connect with the part of you that just notices…

And now take a few moments to consider what brought you here today… There is something you care so much about that you took steps to get here… Just reflect for a few moments about what it is that you really, truly care about most in your life… Recognize and appreciate the fact that you made a choice to take action for change… And as the exercise comes to a close, see if you can bring to mind an image of what kind of person you want to be when you are handling your pain effectively… Consider how you’ll be acting toward other people… How you’ll be acting toward yourself…

And when you’re ready, slowly bring your attention back to the room and back to where we are now. If you like, move your fingers and toes around and have a nice stretch.



Step Five

Congratulations on completing this ACT-based toolkit! We hope you have found these new skills helpful in moving toward a life based on what you care about the most.

Going forward:

Feel free to re-use this toolkit in whatever way helps you the most. You might want to work through it again and try new exercises that you haven’t practiced with yet. Along with the tools and skills you have used thus far, you can find countless other resources on the Internet by searching online for Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Mindfulness, Defusion, Present Moment Awareness, or Observer Self.

Remember that the most common obstacle to progress is not doing the exercises. With mindfulness and defusion skills, it is very easy to think about using them instead of actually trying them out. So if you haven’t made as much progress as you’d hoped, consider if you are willing to do more of the exercises, do them more consistently, or do them more often.


If you have questions about these materials or need help along the way, feel free to contact us